Cancer on the First Date // The C Word: Young Adults with Cancer

Cancer on the First Date // The C Word: Young Adults with Cancer


Um, oh this will be a good one. Would you be okay about telling someone you
had cancer on the first date? Because of what I do they have to know it’s
inevitable. Um, it’s just a part of me now. And I mean I usually have my scar and what
not showing because I’m not afraid of it, so it’s obviously going to come up in conversation. As a test for the person I’m dating, if
someone’s freaked out by that that’s not someone I’d probably want to be with I’m
pretty forthcoming and open about my experiences so if they can’t kind of handle that on
the first date, I’d rather know sooner than later. I think the phrase it’s a part of me is
good, and I also walk with a crutch outside and stuff and I don’t want to be I had an
injury and then like some time later be like well it wasn’t really an injury. You don’t want to start off your relationship
with a lie, it’s like a perceived lie. So yeah. Well I tattooed survivor on my arm, and it’s
bound to raise a few questions because it’s a pretty obvious spot, so it’s there, it’s
tattooed on me, might as well get it out of the way. It’s such a huge part of my life and I’m
super proud of it. My answer would be yes as well, absolutely,
when I was dating 100 percent I would be straight up front. Thomas and I share an indicative scar, even
if your shirt jumps up a little bit you got a scar that goes from here to here you can’t
hide that. I mean my left arm, my right arm, my tats,
like you talk about cancer, so, yeah, it’s reflective, we all share this idea that it’s
part of our identity, it’s not who we are but it makes up for a relevant part of our
experience.

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